I love being a parent. However, there are many challenges that go with the job. One of my biggest challenges is giving up control. I know I have to let my children make choices, make mistakes and do things their way (man, this kills me). I also know that allowing them freedom often means I am filled with pride when they do something right. And, sometimes, I am busy fixing their "help". Such was the case last night.
Yesterday was my first official day of summer break. I started the day off as usual: a cup of coffee, some computer time, some laundry. Jaxon was sick so we went to the doctor (he has strep). We came home and I continued chores: more laundry, clean sheets on the bed. Jaxon took a nap. During his nap time, Kevin and I came up with a "brilliant" idea. The children would earn their fun this summer. We decided we buy them wayyyy tooooooo much and they don't work for anything. So the children would earn points for doing jobs around the house. For example: making your bed is 25 points, clearing the table is 25 points, dusting is 50 points and so forth. Picking up your room and toys is a given and no points are awarded. And 25 points can taken for breaking house rules: no fighting, no back talk, no toys left downstairs, etc. (Basically we are working with quarters). Jaxon will get his in poker chips so he sees a visual while Jocelyne will be doing adding and subtracting. Then, these points are used to "buy" things. A trip to Chikfila or McDonald's is 200 points, a trip to the movies is 250 points, downloading music is 100 points, picking that night's dinner is 100 points and so forth. We have that pride all parents have when they come up with a "new" idea. Then comes time to try it out.
Jaxon is all for this idea. "I'm going to make my bed," he states in his croaking sick boy voice. "Yay," I think, since he had messed it up during nap. He goes up stairs and comes back a few minutes later and informs me that it was hard, but he did it. He made his bed. And he is sooo proud. And I am so proud. Then he tell me it's done and everything is on the floor. Huh? On the floor? Yes, my son stripped his bed and made a neat pile on the floor of the clean sheets that had been on his bed for a total of 8 hours! And I got to make the bottom bunk, again. And explain the difference is stripping a bed and making a bed.
I'm still holding out that this "point system" will work.
Cute story! Your blog is looking great!
ReplyDeleteHa! That was funny. :-) I love the idea of points though and I sympathize with the challenges of getting the idea to "work"! Good luck and keep us posted as to how it goes!
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